Friday, March 24, 2023

An #Interview with Phil Newton and Rich Shadden, Authors of Shepherding the Pastor

An Interview with Phil Newton and Rich Shadden,
Authors of Shepherding the Pastor

Many pastors feel isolated and helpless, especially those just starting out in pastoral ministry. However, it helps to have a trusted friend who has traveled the road and can be a guide for navigating the journey. In their new book, Shepherding the Pastor: Help for the Early Years of Ministry, Phil Newton and Rich Shadden share the benefits they have gained from pastoral mentoring.

Q: Shepherding the Pastor is largely based on your own mentor/mentee relationship. How did the two of you meet and begin work in ministry together?

Phil: We met around 2009 when I pastored South Woods Baptist Church in Memphis. Rich was a seminary student whom I met while visiting the seminary. He and Kristy visited our church one Sunday and soon joined. During that process of attending and showing interest in membership, I asked him to become part of our pastoral internship where I mentored and trained men for eldership, pastoring, missions, etc.

Q: You both have seen the need for a resource such as yours for a number of years, so why did you wait so long to write Shepherding the Pastor?

Phil: Maybe we needed a nudge! Actually, Rich posed the idea to me, maybe two years ago, as he had finished up his ninth year of pastoral work at Audubon Park Baptist Church in Memphis. We discussed it and it seemed a good resource for pastors.

Rich: I began reflecting on how much of an influence Phil had on my life and ministry as I approached ten years at Audubon Park. It was clear to me that God used Phil to help me stay the course at APBC, and I was deeply thankful for our friendship. I also considered how so many young pastors don’t have mentors who can walk with them through the various seasons of ministry. So, I talked with Phil about the idea of writing a book that could be used as a resource to help young pastors as they faced similar challenges, but to also encourage younger and older pastors to develop mentoring relationships.

Q: Why is it important for a young pastor to find a mentor for the beginning years of his work in ministry? Why should more experienced pastors find the time to take a younger man under his wing?

Phil: As for young pastors, the reality is that you don’t know what you don’t know. I reflect on beginning to serve as pastor for a church in March 1978. I had been on a couple of church staffs and had a good bit of experience preaching but shepherding a congregation and preaching twice each Sunday and leading the midweek service was new to me. There’s a weightiness to preaching every week that one doesn’t understand until faced with the challenge. Plus, dealing with the idiosyncrasies and issues in people’s lives, knowing how to navigate varied personalities, understanding how to pastorally counsel, and getting a grip on leading are all a process. Having a more experienced pastor or pastors come alongside, listening to questions, offering counsel, and especially giving affirmation when on track, prove to be essential in continuing the pastoral work without it overwhelming you.

As for more experienced pastors taking on mentoring/shepherding a younger one, it’s the pattern that is so evident throughout church history. Jonathan Edwards was mentored by his father and grandfather, he mentored Joseph Bellamy, who in turn mentored a group of pastors in the 18^th century. Robert Hall Sr. and John Newton pastorally mentored Andrew Fuller, William Carey, John Sutcliff, and John Ryland Jr., among others, who in turn, became the leading pastoral theologians and mission leaders among English Baptists in the late 18^th and early 19^th centuries. They mentored their fair share too. I see this as a stewardship entrusted to us by the Lord. If the Lord has invested so much in us, then we have responsibility to pass it along—not in a domineering way, but with humility that comes alongside younger pastors to encourage and point them in the right direction. The more experienced must certainly not try to shape young brothers in their image but seek to show them how Christ is formed in us and how the Good Shepherd works through his undershepherds.

Rich: Young pastors are often full of zeal, energy, and a wealth of biblical knowledge learned in seminary. That combination can lead to a quick firing or divided church if not tempered with wisdom. Wisdom is cultivated with time and the ongoing application of the word. However, young pastors lack time and experience in pastoral ministry. They haven’t experienced the different ministry challenges that an older pastor has. A young pastor needs a seasoned pastor to come alongside him and be a wise voice helping him discern how to shepherd the church with patience and teaching.

More experienced pastors have a wealth of wisdom to offer, but often aren’t sure how to help. They just need to be asked. I have learned through experience that most seasoned pastors really enjoy talking through the challenges and joys of ministry and offering guidance to younger pastors. I want to encourage seasoned pastors to take the initiative and develop relationships with younger pastors to encourage them. Help channel their energy and zeal in a God-honoring direction. Most young pastors are like sponges and will soak up any time with you they can have.

Q: What are some of the biggest challenges facing young pastors in the early years?

Phil: Sunday keeps coming every week! The challenge of preparing fresh sermons each week, properly feeding the flock on the Word, being pastorally sensitive to how to lead and counsel the members, keeping an eye on wandering sheep, all collapses into intense pressure from the early months. A young pastor may be enamored with preaching—and that’s understandable—but there’s more to preaching. He will discover that the weight of pastoral work will often stymie his well-laid plans for sermon preparation. He must be ready, though, when he steps into the pulpit. He cannot make excuses for why he’s not ready. That’s just part of the work. Yet in this weekly challenge, the young pastor learns that he must trust the Lord, exercise wise discipline, walk in humility, and continue to be teachable.

Rich: I think learning how to manage time as a pastor is crucial. Ministry needs never cease, and a young pastor can find himself suffocating under the weight of ministry responsibilities. It is important to learn from Scripture what exactly a pastor is supposed to do, and then schedule time around those priorities. Preaching the word, praying for the congregation, training the church for ministry, counseling, administration, etc.

I would also say that patience is critical to faithful pastoral ministry. Young pastors often want to see things move at a pace the church isn’t ready to embrace. Be patient. Guard your life and your doctrine, and let the Word do the work!

Q: Can you tell us some of the situations that are discussed in Shepherding the Pastor?

Phil: I remember telling Rich once he began serving as pastor at Audubon Park, that about six months in, he would ask himself, “What have I done?” I laugh to note that he said that happened much sooner, more like 6-8 weeks into the pastorate. We talk through how you deal with pastor-shock. Another important issue he faced, as many do, was learning how to navigate power groups or the old guard or turf shepherds—whatever one wants to call them. It’s when there are a few people who think they are the church, and nothing can happen without their consent. Most of the time they lack biblical insight and humble leadership when asserting their ways. How do you walk through that kind of setting? We spend time discussing it.

Rich: Here is one example. On Wednesday evenings, our church had a prayer meeting. The only problem is that we spent about five minutes praying. We ate together, I taught the Word, and then we prayed. So, I decided, without praying about it, and without seeking wisdom from Phil or other mentors, to change the prayer meeting to an actual prayer meeting. The move was met with resistance. Not because the people didn’t want to pray, but because I charged ahead without patience and teaching. Attendance dropped significantly, and I learned a valuable lesson about pastoral care during that time. Layer teaching with more teaching before making any significant changes. Talk with people. Hear from them. Learn and be patient.

Q: There are many expectations put on a pastor by his congregation, and there is a learning curve for young pastors as they settle into their position. What tasks are absolutely necessary for the pastor, and what can be delegated? How can you communicate boundaries to church members?

Phil: I must admit that communicating boundaries is not always easy. I tell one story in the book about how I tried to do this with my study time and the congregation’s reaction. They were not accustomed to having a pastor who preached expositionally instead of topically, requiring diligent study before getting into the pulpit. I think I fought that battle for almost five years. Some boundaries you attempt to set up front but sometimes you must return to them here and there. People learn by layering, so you learn to layer these positions to get them ingrained into the thinking of the congregation.

As far as absolutes, I think the pastor follows Acts 6:4, “But we will devote ourselves to prayer and to the ministry of the word” (ESV). These two disciplines of prayer and the Word, seeking the Lord on behalf of the church and shepherding through the exposition of Holy Scripture must not be given over to lesser things. But there’s generally a battle at this point. Administrative issues, while certainly important, often squeeze prayer and Word out. Pastors must learn to set boundaries with their schedules and daily disciplines on this point. There are a lot of things that I found I would jump to take care of, robbing myself of time in the Word and prayer, only because I wanted them handled my way. There’s a pride issue at this point. It’s hard to let things go. Yet over 44 years of pastoring, I don’t look back and say, “I wish that I had spent more time doing administration.” Others might do a better job with administration than you do, but you have to be willing to let go to focus on your priorities. Give counsel for what you want, have discussions, but turn others loose so that you will be a man of God who faithfully shepherds the flock.

I would add, a pastor must never neglect his own devotion life with the Lord. Setting time apart each day to nurture his soul will enable the time in prayer and the Word to be rich and satisfying. He’s got to give attention to soul-care, without which, he fails to mirror Christ’s life being lived out of him.

Rich: What Phil said is excellent. The only thing I would add is to equip the church to care for one another. Yes, pastors need to be available and (gladly) willing to shepherd the people entrusted to our care. But why are there so many “one another” passages in Scripture? It is because the church is to fulfill the “one another” commands in Scripture. The body will care well for itself if trained to do so. Brothers and sisters in the congregation should build one another up in the faith. Not every situation needs pastoral care from a pastor. Training a congregation to live this way will create a healthier church and healthier pastors.

Q: You talk quite a bit about longevity and staying in one place for what many would consider a long time. When do you know it’s time to move on to another work?

Phil: I address this with more detail in my book, 40 Questions About Pastoral Ministry, but you ask yourself some questions. For example, do you just need a good vacation or study leave instead of transitioning? Have you lost focus on your pastoral responsibilities and think a transition, instead of better discipline, will change your situation? Is your motivation to move healthy or is it the pursuit of greener pastures?

From the other angle, once you have asked questions (and discussed these with your wife, if married, and with pastoral mentors), ask more questions. Have you prayed through on this matter until you’re at peace? Do you sense a release from your pastoral responsibilities? Does your wife think this is a good idea? Do your pastoral mentors believe it to be wise? Do you have doctrinal convictions that indicates you should leave your present church for another?

Rich: I don’t know myself, but I’m sure I’d talk to Phil (and others)! Seriously though, what I can speak to is the reality that there are times when a pastor may want to leave. The opposition becomes tense, and it is challenging. I remember asking Phil this question and the advice he gave came from John 10 where Jesus, the Chief Shepherd, talks about laying down his life for the sheep. That text is directly addressing the sacrificial death of Jesus on behalf of sinners. But as a model for pastors, Jesus helps us see that pastoral ministry requires sacrifice for the good of God’s people. Sometimes it is right and God-honoring to leave. But I think we live in a society that readily tries to avoid pain and suffering. It is easier to leave than stay. I know that was my heart posture. But what I learned is that staying and enduring with God’s help produces fruit in the long run that you would otherwise not see.

Q: What are the four essential components that characterize pastoral longevity?

Phil: Pastoral longevity is characterized by:

Developing good listeners and interpreters of Scripture through biblical exposition. An eager congregation makes for a lengthy pastorate.
Discipling men and women in the church. Faithful Christ-followers make staying long attractive.
Developing patience in waiting for change, revitalization, transformation, etc. Our impatience may move us quicker than anything. In a move to another church, it will do the same. Learn to be patient in pastoring.
Being slow to make changes. You’re dealing with years of patterns that are not easily changed without your faithful, slow, deliberate, humble shepherding.

Q: Talk to us about how regardless of the situation he encounters, a pastor must learn to rely only on the Word and on God.

Phil: It is only the work of God through the Word and Spirit that brings about anything truly spiritual and lasting. If we believe the gospel of Jesus is the foundation of life and eternity, then we’re reminded that it’s not our power and might, not our education and theological acumen, not our personality and gravitas that transforms lives. It’s only the work of grace through the gospel applied that forms Christ in a people. Pastors use the means of grace which they lead (Word, prayer, the Lord’s Supper, worship, etc.) to help effect these transformations, but they cannot make them happen. If they can make them happen, then someone else can unravel them. Plus, if we think that we’re the change agent for the church, we will grow in arrogance rather than humble God-dependence.

Rich: I just can’t imagine standing before the Lord and him asking, “Why didn’t you build my church the way I told you to in my word?” We aren’t going to be held accountable for our creativity or ingenuity (I suppose these things do have some degree of value). But we will be held accountable for our faithfulness to exemplify and teach the word. God accomplishes His purposes through the word, and we must trust that He is working even when the results aren’t what we hope to see.

Q: Change, for an individual or a group, is difficult. What must a pastor keep in mind as he leads the congregation toward change?

Phil: We want to see the gospel at work in a church. We must keep the gospel of Jesus crucified and resurrected and reigning central. Anything that moves us off-center from Christ and the gospel may create changes, but not the kind that honor and glorify the Lord. Our culture is into big splashes rather than the patient work of the Word and Spirit transforming men and women into the image of Christ the Lord. Pastors must be lasered on the work of the Spirit through the gospel proclaimed as his mission. Obviously, he’s not always in the pulpit, but the pulpit is central to his work. Yet he’s also doing personal and small-group discipling, one-one-one conversations, counseling—all of which must have this same gospel-focused work.

Rich: Make God’s goals your goals. As an example, Paul says in Colossians 1:28-29, “Him we proclaim, warning everyone and teaching everyone with all wisdom, that we may present everyone mature in Christ. For this I toil, struggling with all his energy that he powerfully works within me.” If Paul worked hard to help God’s people be conformed to the image of Christ, so should we. If we labor for the things Scripture prioritizes, then the work is worth it. This will help prevent us from establishing the wrong goals and laboring for the wrong things.

Q: What pattern does each chapter of Shepherding the Pastor follow?

Phil: Rich poses a challenge that has arisen in his pastoral life. I respond with counsel that I gave him or would give for whatever the issue might be. He responds with application of the counsel, offering anecdotes of how things worked out. I respond with next steps to take if another pastor is in a similar situation. Then we follow with recommended books and articles and other resources, followed by some discussion questions.

Q: What one piece of encouragement would you like to leave with any pastor, young or old, who reads Shepherding the Pastor?

Phil: You might do the shepherding the pastor practice differently than we do, which is fine. There’s no one right way to make this happen. Realize that when you, as an experienced pastor, invest in a younger pastor, you become part of his ministry, although in the shadows. You will find joy in seeing what the Lord is doing and how he is shaping the younger pastor and transforming his congregation. Even when a younger pastor faces extreme challenges and sees that it’s time to move on, the experienced pastor will have the joy of walking alongside him in transition, caring for his soul, and learning more about the ministry and soul-care for himself, too.

Rich: I hope the book will encourage you in whatever season of ministry you are in at the moment to endure with joy. Whether you glean some help directly from the book, or are encouraged to find and establish a relationship with a mentor. Pastoral longevity is the aim! One overarching emphasis of Scripture in regard to pastoral ministry seems to be teamwork. Jesus doesn’t intend for his undershepherds to do this work alone. In his goodness, he provides co-laborers to come alongside and help. That’s a principle that operates among pastor/elder teams, and as young pastors are mentored by seasoned pastors. Jesus cares about the spiritual health of his undershepherds too. We are sheep first! Then shepherds. So, pursue what he wants you to have: Christ-centered relationships.

Shepherding the Pastor: Help for the Early Years of Ministry
by Phil A. Newton and Rich C. Shadden
February 13, 2023/Retail Price: $16.99
Print ISBN 978-1-64507-296-6
Religion/Christian Ministry/Pastoral Resources

About the Authors

Phil A. Newton served as a pastor for over forty years. He continues mentoring and training pastors through The Pillar Network as Director of Pastoral Care and Mentoring and Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary, where he serves as an adjunct professor. He’s the author of several books, including 40 Questions about Pastoral Ministry and The Mentoring Church, and coauthor of Shepherding the Pastor. Phil and his wife live in Germantown, TN.

Rich C. Shadden has served as a pastor for over ten years. He continues pastoring and training pastors through the local church pastoral residency at Audubon Park Baptist Church and through Bethlehem College & Seminary, Memphis location, where he teaches as an adjunct professor. He is coauthor of Shepherding the Pastor. Rich, his wife, and their four children live in Memphis, TN.

Phil and Rich met at South Wood Baptist Church where Phil served as pastor for 35 years. Rich served as a pastoral intern under Phil’s mentorship for two years before beginning his role at Audubon Park Baptist Church. Their mentor/mentee relationship has continued over the past thirteen years.

Wednesday, March 22, 2023

Fatal Vendetta (Vanishing Ranch #7)

Fatal Vendetta

(Vanishing Ranch #7)

December 7, 2022

by Christy Barritt (Author)

Trapped in a deadly game, Addison Barlow has no choice but to play by her tormentor’s rules.

Following a terrifying home invasion, Addison’s life is controlled by fear. As the threats rise, she flees to a friend’s secluded cabin by Lake Tahoe. But when the woman next door disappears, Addie worries she just escaped one bad situation for another.

Vanishing Ranch operative and former Homeland Security agent Hayes Barlow hasn’t given up hope that he and his estranged wife will reconcile. When he receives a frantic phone call from her, he jumps at the opportunity to help. He prays he can not only keep her safe but also win her back.

Addie and Hayes quickly realize that something sinister is lurking beneath the surface of the idyllic setting surrounding the cabin. Disturbing text messages, vandalism, and haunting secrets keep them on edge.

Hayes must not only discover the truth about what’s going on with Addie but also about the deadly incidents happening around them. If he doesn’t . . . he could risk losing Addie forever.

My thoughts: FATAL VENDETTA may be part of the ongoing Vanishing Ranch series but it easily stands alone. Addie is being targeted by an invisible somebody who is threatening to kill her estranged husband. Ms. Barritt is a prolific author who writes a quick read that you can't put down. I never guessed the ending. If you like romantic suspense you will love FATAL VENDETTA or any of the other books in this series. I was given a copy free and all opinions are my own.

Welcome to the Forged in Love Celebration Tour! #historicalromance #giveaway!!

About the Book

Book: Forged in Love

Author: Mary Connealy

Genre: Historical Romance

Release date: February 28, 2023

When sparks begin to fly, can a friendship cast in iron be shaped into something more?

Mariah Stover is left for dead and with no memory when the Deadeye Gang robs the stagecoach she’s riding in, killing both her father and brother. As she takes over her father’s blacksmith shop and tries to move forward, she soon finds herself in jeopardy and wondering–does someone know she witnessed the robbery and is still alive?

Handsome and polished Clint Roberts escaped to western Wyoming, leaving his painful memories behind. Hoping for a fresh start, he opens a diner where he creates fine dishes, but is met with harsh resistance from the townsfolk, who prefer to stick to their old ways.

Clint and Mariah are drawn together by the trials they face in town, and Clint is determined to protect Mariah at all costs when danger descends upon her home. As threats pursue them from every side, will they survive to build a life forged in love?

Marilyn's thoughts: Forged in Love is an appropriate title with the heroine being a blacksmith. Mariah was strong willed and determined to keep her family’s blacksmith shop going, despite knowing her life was being sought. The tale is engaging throughout with Nell, Becky and Clint protectiveness of Mariah with tense and tender moments. The unexpected happened at amusing times with some rhetoric expressions to follow by close friends. There’s plenty of action and conversations that made this an enjoyable historical read.

I received a complimentary copy of this book from Celebrate Lit and Bethany House without any obligation to write a positive review. I have expressed my own opinion.

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About the Author

Mary Connealy (www.maryconnealy.com) writes “romantic comedies with cowboys” and is celebrated for her fun, zany, action-packed style. She has sold more than one and a half million books. She is the author of the popular series Brothers in Arms, Brides of Hope Mountain, High Sierra Sweethearts, The Kincaid Brides, Trouble in Texas, Lassoed in Texas, Sophie’s Daughters, and many other books. Mary lives on a ranch in eastern Nebraska with her very own romantic cowboy hero.

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The Inspiration

I started plotting this novel when I found out that Wyoming was the first state (then a territory) in the Union to grant women the right to vote. Then I discovered it wasn’t just the right to vote; all sorts of other rights were given to women as well, like the right to run for elected office or be appointed to office. In fact, the first woman justice of the peace in the U.S. was from Wyoming. This inspired me to have one of my heroines be the second justice of the peace in the country.

As I continued my research, reading about all that went on in Wyoming was fascinating. They became a territory in 1868—with women voting—and yet they weren’t allowed statehood for another thirty years. With other states being granted statehood in only a few years, why was this? Because the U.S. government refused to let Wyoming in unless they took the vote away from women.

Because Wyoming adamantly refused to strip the vote from women, year after year they were denied statehood. When they finally did get it, the state’s women maintained their right to vote because Wyoming would not budge on the issue. The whole history of this was great reading.

So I wrote a three-book series called Wyoming Sunrise in which all my heroines play against the normal, conventional female roles of the day.

Now, what job could I possibly think of that wasn’t traditionally for women? How about Mariah who happens to be a blacksmith? And while I’m writing against stereotypes, I created a man named Clint who runs a diner. That wasn’t too unusual, for lots of diners were run by men back in the day. Yet not many of them were talented chefs trained in high-class restaurants in New York City. Clint is an excellent chef. Of course, an excellent chef in a small Wyoming town is kind of wasted on folks who prefer fried chicken and beef stew.

Clint makes chicken and beef, but he calls his dishes weird names and makes them unusually delicious. Meanwhile, Mariah is working over a hot forge for long hours every day. When her father and brother are killed in a stagecoach holdup, she becomes the only blacksmith in town.

There’s some resistance to her doing such a masculine job, but even among those who disapprove, well, they’ve got a broken wagon wheel or a hole in their kettle and it’s either let Mariah fix it or go without. Mariah is allowed to be a blacksmith out of pure necessity.

My second book, The Laws of Attraction, has a female justice of the peace, while the third, Marshaling Her Heart, features a tough lady rancher. I write westerns, and honestly, writing about tough, feisty lady ranchers like Becky the Rancher comes naturally to me. Writing about a blacksmith and a judge, however, presents more of a challenge.

Mariah, who survived the stagecoach holdup, learns that the robbers believe she might know something that will reveal their identity, and she needs to be silenced. Clint tries to protect her and finds himself stepping between her and a murderous gang of outlaws.

Through it all, love finds them, and they begin to forge a life together.