A must-read guide for parents and grandparents who want to practically and successfully help their teenager navigate the ever-lengthening stage of adolescence launching, them into society with confidence, vision, and success.
Zombies are not just found in horror movies, sometimes they’re lying on your living room couch. These are undead adolescents whose psychological and social development have come to a screeching halt. Torn by their yearning for freedom and their fear of surviving the outside world, they have stalled in their maturity, motivation, and purpose in life, hijacked by a helplessness and fear of responsibility. Parents often feel ill-equipped to love, support, and guide them—especially when they may be facing a midlife crisis of their own and battling some of the same issues in their own lives. Is it really possible to escape this “undead” state of being?
In My Teenage Zombie board-certified psychiatrist and medical doctor David L. Henderson explains the parts of a teenage zombie (their brain, heart, and spirit), how they got into this undead state, and how to resurrect them back to life. Using real-life examples of families he has counseled, he describes both their physical and psychological characteristics and offers practical suggestions on how to deal with, and in many cases avoid, having an undead adolescent in your home.
The book is divided into three helpful sections:
The Rise of the Undead: Understanding the Nature of a Teenage Zombie
The Fear of the Undead: Facing the Anxiety of Confronting a Teenage Zombie
Resurrecting the Undead: Restoring Your Teenage Zombie to a Life Worth Living
If you are the parent of an undead adolescent, there is hope for you and your child. Or maybe you have children who are not yet adolescents. It’s never too early to prepare for the challenges that await you. Either way, stay calm and start resurrecting zombies!
My thoughts: First, the disclaimer. "I was provided a free copy of this book. All opinions are my own." That done, MY TEENAGE ZOMBIE: Resurrecting the Undead Adolescent in Your Home is a timely book for those of us with Undead Zombies. I am somewhat behind on reviews due to four back-to-back book deadlines, and the publisher sent me a gentle reminder that my promised review for this was past due. I opened it up, read the introduction, the first chapter, identified the area where my twenty-six year old zombie has issues, and flipped to that chapter (11). Read that. My zombie has been quite alarmed by my reading the book and is arguing he is not a zombie. Not engaging. I know better. The tone of the book is rather clinical, but I suppose that seeing as Dr Henderson is a MD then it is to be expected. I struggled to wrap my mind around some of the things included, and I can see it is going to take some time, rereading and thought to thoroughly implement change in my child. In the mean time, what Dr. Henderson recommended in chapter 11 was to change locks, padlock the refrigerator, and impliment the command "He who will not work shall not eat." Sounds rather harsh, and what parent wants others to judge him that way? Not I. But then again, is that going to be what's necessary to get him off his rump and out looking for work? Or into college to earn that "stupid, worthless degree" that is oh so necessary to getting his dream job? This book would be helpful for other parents who struggles as I do. Is your child addicted to mind-altering drugs or alchohol? Lazy? Is he lacking spark, pulse, or fiber? Not sure? Just know something is wrong? This book will help you identify the problem and help you to take steps to solve it. I know I will be rereading my copy as I struggle to help my son find his pulse.