She's Got the Wrong Guy
by Deepak Reju
Christian Life/ Relationships
New Growth Press
The control freak. The angry man. The lazy guy. The unteachable guy. The promiscuous man. The unbeliever. The lone ranger. The unchurched guy. The new convert. The commitment-phobe.
Why do the nicest women pick guys who let them down for one reason or another? The answers are not always straightforward. For some women, the issue is as simple as not really thinking through what they're looking for or should be looking for in a man. Others feel they'd rather be with someone (and pretty much anyone will do) than be alone, while still others are unconsciously replicating patterns of bad relationships they learned in childhood or from traumatic experiences and don't know how to stop the cycle.
Deepak Reju, writing from his years of experience as a pastor and a counselor, shares with women his perspective on how to assess a relationship's strengths from the beginning, how to identity possible pitfalls, and how to have the courage to not just "settle" but to wait for a relationship that will be a blessing to both of you.
Don't "settle" for less than what God intends
for your romantic relationships.
My thoughts: SHE'S GOT THE WRONG GUY is a book I was iffy about. Do I want to review it? No, yes, maybe, nah, not relevant to me... And then my daughter started um, sort of dating the wrong guy. And when another call out came to review the book, I thought, okay, yes, I'll read it and give it to my daughter to read.
SHE'S GOT THE WRONG GUY is a book about women Deepak Reju has counseled and why they choose the wrong guy. It also has plenty of biblical reasons why the men they chose were bad choices and what the Bible has to say about such a thing. It left me beginning to feel as if there are no perfect men out there (and there's not) but toward the end it does leave encouragement and some guidelines of things to look for in a potential mate.
I've been married thirty years and I think Deepak Reju would've told Steve and me to wait to begin dating. Why? Because Steve was a new Christian. He'd come to Christ four months before I met him and we were married four months after that. But that said, upon being saved Steve immediately felt the call to go into ministry and he dived head-on into that goal. Literally. So he was doing a lot of Bible study, growing as a Christian, and that (according to the encouragement part of Deepak Reju's book) is a good thing. Steve is far from perfect, but then so am I. We're both human. Both totally sold out to God, but still human.
I think this is a great book for young single women to read and I think it even would be good for my son to read as the woman he's dating is a brand-spanking new Christian. In fact, he led her to Christ less than a month ago. But this book is geared toward women and their choices and my son wouldn't relate.
I am going to give my copy to my daughter as the guy she's kind of sort of dating has major anger issues. And I'll pray she takes the advice, Scripture, and wisdom in the book to heart, learn from it, and at least take the time to pray about her decisions and maybe wait for the guy God has waiting in the wings.
Recommended for single women everywhere--in a relationship or not.
I was given a copy of the book free. All opinions are my own.
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Meet the Author
, MDiv, PhD, serves as the pastor of biblical counseling and families at Capitol Hill Baptist Church (CHBC) in Washington, DC, as well as president for the board of directors of the Biblical Counseling Coalition. He is the author of several books and articles, including Great Kings of the Bible: How Jesus is Greater than Saul, David, and Solomon, The Pastor and Counseling, and On Guard: Preventing and Responding to Child Abuse at Church. Deepak and his wife, Sarah, have five children.