Monday, October 7, 2013

He Wins, She Wins

Author: Willard F. Harley, Jr.
Publisher: Revell
October 2013
ISBN: 978-0800722517
Genre: Marriage/relationships

Every conflict in your marriage is an opportunity to fall more deeply in love.

You've probably heard a lot of advice on how to resolve conflicts in your marriage. What you may not know is that if a resolution comes only in order to keep the peace, it's no resolution at all. Marriage expert Willard F. Harley, Jr., says there's a better way.

What's different about the He Wins, She Wins approach is the ultimate goal--for you and your spouse to grow in your love for each other. This win-win model for negotiation starts with a simple rule: Never do anything without an enthusiastic agreement between you and your spouse.

Think that sounds impossible? In this book, Dr. Harley will show you how it's been done in his marriage of over fifty years--and in the marriages of the thousands of couples he's counseled. He'll explain the art of marital negotiation, show you how to resolve common conflicts the right way, and help you overcome these common obstacles:

· emotional reactions are preventing calm discussion
· neither of you wants to talk about an issue
· one or both of you are indecisive
· one of you is happy with the status quo
· being enthusiastic about anything doesn't seem possible

And above all, he'll show you how every decision you make together will increase your love for each other.

HE WINS, SHE WINS, is another marriage-help book, that will help teach couples how to successfully resolve conflicts in their marriage and strengthen love at the same time. As a marriage counselor he’s seen people treat each other with respect but yet still file for divorce because they fell out of love. So he wants to help improve the love between couples.

There are some worksheets included such as the Marital Negotiations Worksheet, Emotional Needs Questionaire, and the Love Busters Questionaire, as well as helpful chapters such as How to negotiate when you are emotional. Or indecisive. Or not enthusiastic about the issue. 

I’ve been married twenty-five years and we learned, through trial and error, what works and what doesn’t. I read the book for review, not because I don’t get along with my husband. I did learn some things—enough to recommend this book for any newlywed couple or ones that are struggling to find common ground to avoid divorce. Hard cover, with a dustcover, $19.99. 192 pages. 

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